It is often said that “misery loves company”, but so does mediocrity. Don’t let the fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs of others limit what’s possible for you. One of the most important commitments you will ever make is to proactively and continuously improve your circle of influence. Always seek people who will add value to your life and bring out the best in you. And of course, be that person for others.
The Miracle Morning – Hal Elrod
We tend to settle and get comfortable with doing the things everyone else around us is doing instead of branching out and fulfilling our potential. I know this has been a struggle for me since I was young. I’ve been in a constant battle against mediocrity. I’m from a small town….surrounded by people with small town mentalities. I’ve noticed that people around me hardly grow, change, or advance. They’re constantly settling for less instead working towards goals or what they really want. Clearly…my circle of influence needs improvement.
Over the past few years I’ve isolated myself…mostly because I had a mentality of ‘people suck’. But it really was because the people I had surrounded myself with weren’t good for much other than entertainment. I didn’t have many meaningful relationships so I just kept to myself most of the time. I was shy and made myself unapproachable and disinterested. I’m proud to say I’ve been taking steps towards changing this, my chapter of solitude is over. I’ve blocked some people out, added some others in. I’ve been actively seeking people who I share common interests with (something I realized is way more important than I thought). I’ve been doing things I’ve never had the courage to do…like starting this blog and a book club.
It is so important to actively seek and surround yourself with people who have the same interests, aspirations, goals, and values as you. Find people you admire and want to be like, I promise they will rub off on you…it’s human nature. (You just have to make sure you’re rubbing against the right people lol). Surround yourself with people who add value to your life, people you can learn from and grow with. The most important kind of people that I have found are those who encourage you and cheer you on. A support system…people who are proud of you and aknowledge the good things you are doing in your life. I’m sure that it sounds simple to some people…but it is truly life changing.
If you haven’t already, I recommend reading The Miracle Morning – Hal Elrod. It’s a cheesy self help book (just a warning) but if you sift through all of the fluff there are some really great things to take from it!
Thank you for reading!